Do you have a question you've always wanted answered? Do you have a helpful idea, a solution, or an answer to a problem you've handled successfully that you'd like to share to help your peers? The Questions and Answers section of Teen Time is specifically for you to ask questions about issues in your life and provide inspiration for others.

Note: Make sure you check out previous questions. You may be able to read or give new and helpful answers.

 
     
Question 81  
 
Q81  

How do you know when you are beautiful?

 
 
     
  Visitor Answer 81  
 
A81  

Everyone is born beautiful -- utterly divine, brilliant, intelligent, strong, and spontaneous. God is the source of our beauty, and we can never be separated from Him because He is All. We need to understand these important points and make sure our speech and actions are consistent with them. We should be grateful for everything we’ve been given.

For a while, I struggled with the idea of beauty. But then I found an interesting connection with gratitude. I realized that I wasn’t being grateful for anything I had been given.

So one day, I randomly opened up the Bible to Psalm 96 (read below). This psalm meant a lot to me. I thought the first verse -- “sing unto the Lord a new song” -- was telling me to give gratitude for every single blessing that I have received and will receive.

This is true for all of us. We can give gratitude for the beauty God has given us, and we can stop worrying about what size clothes we wear, the hair color we have, whether or not our hips are too big -- whatever we think needs to be improved.

I learned that if I want to feel beautiful, I need to change my attitude and view of things. I also need to be grateful for everything I’ve been given. Here are some of the ideas that I found helpful:

  • Don’t curse God for the way you look (whether it’s huge pores or hips or a big stomach).
    • When you curse God, you are really saying that you don’t have what you need or aren’t satisfied with the way you were created. You are missing the point of the psalm.
    • The psalmist explains that “strength and beauty are in his sanctuary” (96:6)-- not in a material body.
  • Glorify God! Praise God.
  • Remind yourself of the truth that God totally reigns!
    • God would never deprive us of anything we need. God supplies everything. We will always have what we need, because He is SO great.
    • The psalmist tells us this: “Say among the heathen that the Lord reigneth” (96:10).

The results of changing your focus and viewpoint are astounding! Once you start giving gratitude and praising God, you will discover your true beauty. But you won’t just see beauty in yourself; you will also see it in other people, in the world, and even in some of your worst enemies. You might even wonder why you never noticed it in the first place!

If you feel so gross and believe that no one wants to look at you, try being grateful! There is no one more beautiful than you, because God created you beautifully. And you reflect God’s beauty.

It’s really the qualities of God we express that determine the way we see ourselves and how others see us.

So if we want to feel beautiful, we need to be beautiful in our thoughts and actions.  It isn’t a stretch to do this. God has already given us everything we need to feel and live beautifully. It all starts with gratitude.

And here’s Psalm 96, which helped me realize the connection between gratitude and beauty:

1 O sing unto the Lord a new song: sing unto the Lord, all the earth.  2 Sing unto the Lord, bless his name; shew forth his salvation from day to day. 3 Declare his glory among the heathen, his wonders among all people. 4 For the Lord is great, and greatly to be praised: he is to be feared above all gods. 5 For all the gods of the nations are idols: but the Lord made the heavens. 6 Honour and majesty are before him: strength and beauty are in his sanctuary.

7 Give unto the Lord, O ye kindreds of the people, give unto the Lord glory and strength. 8 Give unto the Lord the glory due unto his name: bring an offering, and come into his courts. 9 O worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness: fear before him, all the earth. 10 Say among the heathen that the Lord reigneth: the world also shall be established that it shall not be moved: he shall judge the people righteously.

11 Let the heavens rejoice, and let the earth be glad; let the sea roar, and the fulness thereof. 12 Let the field be joyful, and all that is therein: then shall all the trees of the wood rejoice 13 Before the LORD: for he cometh, for he cometh to judge the earth: he shall judge the world with righteousness, and the people with his truth.

 
   

-- Elizabeth BOG Westphal, freshman

 
       
 
     
 

Email us your questions, answers, and inspirational comments.

We will answer and post as many Q&As as possible each month. It's always great to include Bible passages that have helped you.

 
 
 

Previous
Questions and Answers

 
  How do you deal with fears about going to a new school?  
  How do you
deal with the pressure to do drugs?
 
  How do you respond to a problem when everyone has different beliefs?  
  Why should I go to church?  
  How do you deal with enemies?  
  How do you stand up for something that’s right?  
  When schedules get busier, how do we not get overwhelmed?  
  Why should I be myself?  
  How do teens deal with peer pressure?  
  How can we pray about elections?  
  Why is it wrong to lie or to deceive?  
  How do you get rid of self-doubt?  
  Am I forgiving too easily or too much? Is there a limit?  
  How do you stop jealousy?  
  How do you know who to trust?  
  Is swearing really that big of a deal?  
  Does what I choose to wear really matter?  
  Why does everyone gossip?  
  How do you deal with stressful situations?  
  What can I do if I don’t feel I measure up to my parents’ expectations?  
  Why is it so important to lead an unselfish life?  
  I’m the one that always does the work, while my younger sibling goofs off. I feel jealous of my brother. What can I do?  
  How do you forgive someone who doesn’t seem to deserve forgiveness?  
  How do you have a good self-image?  
  How do you find the right amount of self-confidence?  
  How or why should you be kind to someone you really don’t like?  
  How can you keep your individuality, fit in, and have friends when people judge you on appearances?  
  I don’t like it when people pick on others. Can one person really make a difference?  
  How do you deal with anger?  
  What’s so wrong with using steroids to build up your strength?  
  Are there any Bible passages that can help me pray about poverty?  
  What do you do when your siblings are not as into God as you are?  
  How do you balance sports and academics?  
 

How can I keep from reacting when people are judging me?

 
  How do we handle discouragement over not fitting in?  
  Is there a right way to think about food so that it doesn’t control us?  
  Why should I follow God when He doesn’t give me enough of an explanation?  
  How do I deal with not wanting to move to a new place and go to a new school?  
  When suggestions or thoughts come to you to take your life, what can you do?  
  How do you handle the temptations to have sex, drink, steal, etc?  
  Why is it so important to be yourself?  
  How can I make every week not seem so long and pointless?  
  How do you deal with criticism?  
  What do you do when you feel that your parents don’t know what’s best for you in the long run?  
  How can I find ideas when I have no inspiration to write a paper?  
  When a friend comes to you with a problem, how can you help him or her when you aren’t sure what to say?  
  If you bully others, why should you stop? And if you’re being bullied, how do you deal with it?  
  Why do people say that confidence is so important for teenagers?  
  How do you make the right decisions?  
  Peer pressure comes up in most of our lives, so how do you say, “No”?  
  How can we be happy when there are so many problems in high school?  
  Is it important to forgive?  
  The Bible says that God created mankind to “have dominion . . . over every living thing.” What exactly does that mean in relation to how we treat our earth?  
  How do you break stereotypes and make new friends when others make fun of you for reaching beyond the “accepted” circle?  
  How do we know if what we want is really what we need?  
  What do you do and how do you work when a teacher doesn't like you?  
  Moses stood on "holy ground." Did that mean he didn't need to go into the Promised Land?  
  How do I handle an abusive relationship?  
  Am I ever going to feel happy again?  
  What exactly is "Moses' sin"?  
  Is there anything in the Bible about interracial relations?  
  How do I deal with rejection?  
  How can you become a better student?  
  Why is the Bible so graphic at times?  
  Are there any Bible stories about relieving stress?  
  Why are the Midianites enslaving the children of Israel around Gideon's time?  
  What if Jesus never lived?  
  Does God really care about us?  
  How do you make good friends?  
  How do you motivate yourself to do things you don't really want to do but you should do?  
  How did the Children of Israel find water in a desert?  
  How do you know what's right to do in different situations?  
  In reference to the question, "Does God exist?" I'd like to learn more about the nature or concept of God.  
  Why did life spans of people go down when the flood happened?  
  How do we know God exists?
 
  I was wondering how to deal with people who speak in a harsh or unkind way unjustly, especially in the work field.
 
  How do you not get caught up in appearances and expectations and still not seem out-of-date, behind the times, or out-of-place?
 
  How can I feel good about myself when I don't like the way I look?  
 
 
     
   
     
  Copyright © 2009, BibleWise. All Rights Reserved.